May your mood be merry and calm this Christmas
For as long as I can remember my Mum would become wound up about Christmas. She would list off how many weeks until Christmas and talk about it as though it was a looming event to be endured. As I got older I tried my hardest to take the pressure off her but nothing seemed to help.  I think this has been a culturally inflicted anxiety that is unnecessary.

All the media that surrounds us creates a countdown that makes us feel we need to do everything before Christmas. We say to friends, 'we must catch up before Christmas', we make a list of all the things we need to do before Christmas. The reality is that Christmas is just a day that will come and go and it would probably be a lot less stressful to catch up with friends or complete those chores after Christmas. For most people Christmas is simply a time to spend with family and loved ones, a time to express thanks and forgiveness but simply to just be together. It should not be something to dread but to relax and enjoy.

Here are a five simple tips that may help your Christmas be an enjoyable and mindful one;

1. Begin your Christmas with self-compassion. The first gift, and most important, is to give yourself the gift of kindness, understanding and forgiveness. Christmas can be a time when we feel all sorts of expectations. The chances are these expectations are self inflicted and brought on by the 'shoulds' we hold onto. Let go of these shoulds and treat yourself like you would a good friend.

2. Spend time thinking about what Christmas means to you. This may be a spiritual connection, a time to think about others or simply a time to celebrate and have some fun. Don't get caught up in the hype created by the media and think that Christmas is about spending money.  We can show people we care in simple ways.

3. Christmas is just one day. It will come and go quickly so, as much as you can, be in the moment on the day. If you are with friends and family be with them completely. Listen to them, keep your heart open and practice non-judgement.

4. Keep away from large shopping centres. These conglomerates have been designed to encourage us to spend money. It is almost impossible to stay mindful in a place that creates distraction. If you need to buy gifts, visit local markets where you can buy from the maker, shop locally at your favorite store or give a gift of a donation through many different 'not for profit' agencies. If you have the time make your own gifts, as long as this process is enjoyable for you.

5. Ask for help if you need it. It is ok to ask for help and family and friends will be glad that you have. We really want everyone to enjoy their Christmas and if we can help someone enjoy it that little bit more that is a gift to us.

I hope these small and simple tips help you to have an merry and calm Christmas.

Finally, I want to thank you from the bottom of heart for supporting me and nunchi. It has been an exciting time creating this family of mood sprays and it would not have happened without you.


Diane MattingleyComment